Sexual Freedom Summit: Thursday

copy-sfs-logoI took the train to Alexandria last week to Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit. I was working as a Volunteer, but kept my schedule free for the whole first day of Sexuality and Aging.

Unfortunately the session on STIs was cancelled but I went to Tom Callahan’s great talk on making your community LGBTQ friendly. We need to start talking about where seniors who wish to remain sexually active fit into assisted living and nursing homes. Some places are finally waking up to the reality of senior sexuality, but many who identify as LGBTQ are forced back into the closet by repressive staff and outdated policies. We can change this.

Gen Silent

Lambda Legal


LGBT Aging Center/

In the afternoon I went to Joan Price’s wonderful 25 Tips for Sexy Aging. Joan as you may know is one of the reasons I find myself writing this blog. I won’t list all 25 tips, but here are a few:

1. Foreplay implies an end goal of orgasm. Play on the other hand can be whatever both of you (or more!) want to do. It could mean just cuddling or a full-on kink scene.
2. A senior “quickie” should last at least an hour.
3. Seniors ought to be using sex toys to help have regular orgasms. At least once a week says Joan, but I would say double that.
4. Have sex before a meal – not after that candlelit dinner. Listen to Dan Savage’s advice “Fuck first.”
5. Sexual expression is part of healthy living and has nothing to do with age. Amen to that.

Joan Price

Transgender Resources

People are very misinformed about Transgender issues. Here’s an ongoing list of resources that will help to educate those folks.

A Comprehensive Guide To The Debunked “Bathroom Predator” Myth

When Trans People Need…

Human Rights Campaign: Explore Transgender

Religious Institute: Transgender

Religious Tolerance: Human Sexuality Topics: Transgender

Unitarian Universalist: Transgender 101

PFLAG: Transgender

Trans 101

GLAAD’s Transgender Media Program

15 Experts Debunk Right-Wing Transgender Bathroom Myth

How to Win the “Trans Bathroom BillL” Argument…

2014-guide to being a trans ally

Trans 102: Bathrooms

What being transgender after 50 looks like


More info about HB2. It’s not just about transgender:
Facts and Myths that McCrory Forgot

Come As You Are

I cannot sing Emily Nagoski’s praises enough. I read her book Come As You Are back in the fall, and then I read it again a month later. And now my partner is reading it.

After 50 years of being sexually active, I’m pretty confident about my body and my sex life. Even so, living with someone else is not always spontaneous (kaboom) sex, even though we are each other’s best-ever lovers. We love responsive, snuggly, morning sex too, where sometimes we don’t even orgasm, but just play with each other’s bodies.

And all of it is NORMAL.

These videos are the best:

Unlocking the Door to Your Authentic Sexual Wellbeing


Pleasure is the Measure